Sep 18, 2018 By: stwersky
      
      
            
By Mr. Leonard Grunstein
All you need in life is balance; haven鈥檛 we all received this advice, at one time or another? But, is this sentiment anything more than an endearing platitude?
When I was younger, hearing this guidance sympathetically expressed was often annoying. We had little time for such wisdom. Most of us were busy juggling school, work and family responsibilities and trying to excel at all of them. Besides, the lesson we were taught at home, by Holocaust survivor parents, was we had to be better in order to succeed. That meant studying and working harder, not sloughing off. Excuses like not feeling well or needing me-time were unacceptable. They earned a rebuke not a plaudit. Our orientation and charge was to achieve success in this wonderful land of America, never mind the personal sacrifice required. It was the least we could do to honor the sacrifices of our own parents, who afforded us this opportunity.
At the same time, though, we were also inculcated with certain values and traditions that served as countervailing forces to order and afford a sense of balance to our lives. The Sabbath was sacrosanct; work could wait until after Sabbath on Saturday night and there was always Sunday. It was a boundary that could not be crossed. My father, of blessed memory would often say all blessings came from G-d. He would get up early every morning and pray for G-d鈥檚 grace and to be able to earn an honest living with his own gifted hands. He firmly advised us to do the same and not believe our fate was in the hands of other men. Be a slave to G-d, he said, not a slave to a slave. We also had to study the Torah regularly and adhere to its precepts and traditions. I would come to appreciate these lessons greatly, as I matured, married and began to raise my own family.